CODE OF CONDUCT
CODE OF CONDUCT AGREEMENT
The Foursquare Church is committed to protecting and releasing in our children the calling God has placed on their lives. We look to l Thessalonians 5:23 as a guide: " ... may your spirit and soul and body be preserved complete ... " (NASB). We have been charged by God with the responsibility of protecting each child·s spirit, soul, and body; we will do everything possible to fulfill that charge.
We are committed to creating a safe and nurturing environment that fosters spiritual, emotional, and physical health for all children who participate in our ministries. We are also committed to protecting staff members and volunteers from unwarranted accusations. To that end, all staff members and volunteers who work with our children must abide by this Foursquare "Child and Youth Protection Code of Conduct."
Staff Members and Volunteers of The Foursquare Church will..
l. Treat children with respect and fairness at all times, regardless of the child's race, sex, age, or religion.
2. Respond with Christian love and understanding i:e all situations.
3. Act as a positive role model for children by maintaining an attitude of respect, loyalty, patience,.courtesy; and maturity.
4. Dress appropriately and avoid wearing provocative and/or revealing clothing.
5. Engage in appropriate displays of affection, as defined in Sections 4.2; 9.3 and 9.4 .
6. Refrain.from inappropriate physical interactions as defined in Section 9.3.
7. Refrain from using inappropriate corrective measures as defined in Section 9 .5.
8. Refrain from swearing or telling off-color jokes.
9. Avoid involving children in personal problems or issues.
10. Refrain from having secrets with children.
11. Not abuse alcohol-or drugs.
12. Refrain from discussing sexual encounters in the presence of children.
13. Not have or view sexually explicit materials, including any type of pornography.
14. Refrain from staring at or commenting on a child's body.
15. Refrain from perpetrating any kind of abuse upon any child; this includes, but is not
limited to, the following:
a. Physical abuse: hitting, shaking, slapping, unnecessary restraint
b. Verbal abuse: degrading, threatening, cursing
c. Sexual abuse: inappropriate touching, exposing oneself, sexually-oriented
d. Emotional abuse: shaming, humiliating, cruelty
e. Neglect: withholding or denying food, water, clothing, shelter, medical care, freedom of movement, or failure to protect abuse of any kind will not be tolerated. Allegations of abuse may result ilil immediate removal of the staff member or volunteer from duties, and may result in permanent
dismissal at the sole discretion of The Foursquare Church. The Foursquare Church will fully cooperate with authorities if allegations of abuse are made and investigated.
16. Immediately report concerns or complaints, including suspicions of abuse, about a Foursquare church staff member, volunteer, or child to the immediate director of the program and to a member of the ministerial staff.
Appropriate Physical Interactions:
• Pats on the back, arm, or shoulder
• Side hugs
• Shoulder to shoulder, "temple" or "A-frame" hugs
• "High fives" and hand slapping
• Touching hand, face, shoulder, arm
• Arms around shoulders
• Holding hands (with young children)
• Soothing infants
• Sitting beside a child
• Sitting with a small child on adult's legs
Inappropriate Physical Interactions:
• Any form of affection that is unwanted by the child or the staff member/volunteer
• Any physical activity that is, or could be perceived by another to be,
sexually stimulating to the adult or the child
• Full frontal hugs
• Kisses on the mouth
• Kisses of any kind that are unwanted by the child
• Touching chests or anywhere below the waist
• Showing affection in isolated locations such as closets, remote hallways, staff-only areas, or other private rooms
• Staff member/volunteer sleeping in bed with a child
• Wrestling with children
• Piggyback rides
• Allowing a child to cling to the leg of a staff member/volunteer
• Holding a child on a staff member/volunteer's lap so the child is straddled over private areas
• Massage given by a child to a staff member/volunteer
• Massage given by a staff member/volunteer to a child
Appropriate Verbal Interactions:
• Positively reinforcing children
• Telling clean, positive, light-hearted jokes
• Encouraging children
• Praising children
Inappropriate Verbal Interactions:
• Calling children names
• Discussing sexual encounters or in any way involving children in personal problems or issues of staff members/volunteers
• Telling secrets
• Telling off-color or sexually oriented jokes
• Complimenting a child on his or her physique or body development
• Making derogatory remarks, including but not limited to derogatory remarks including but not limited to derogatory remarks about the child, the child's family or ethnic background
• Using harsh language that may frighten , threaten, or humiliate children
It is important that program directors, staff members and volunteers make sure that each child clearly understands behavior expectations. It is essential that program directors ensure that each staff member and volunteer understands appropriate and inappropriate corrective measures and
that children may never be punished because of bladder or bowel "accidents" nor because of
vomiting or other manifestations of illness.
Always remember. correction is not punishment. Rather it is an opportunity to teach a child a better way to behave, while stopping inappropriate behavior. Make an effort to praise good
behavior the child displays.
The staff member/volunteer must remain calm at all times when correcting a child.
When correction is necessary, the following guidelines apply:
Appropriate Correction Options
• Talking with the child about what behavior would have been more appropriate.
Explain natural consequences to inappropriate behavior.
• Assigning a period of time away from the other children. If the offense is repeated, place the child away from the group in a way that avoids public humiliation for
approximately one minute per year of age, not to exceed five minutes.
• Calling for assistance in the case of persistent misbehavior, e.g., the program director, counselors, and/or pastors. The person called upon for assistance may contact the
parent/guardian or sit with the child until the misbehavior subsides or for the duration of the Foursquare activity.
• Intervention to protect a child from harm or risk of being harmed.
Inappropriate Correction Options
• Using condemning language or tone
• Employing corporal punishment: includes shaking, hitting, spanking, slapping, shoving
• Threatening to use corporal punishment
• Engaging in name calling, shaming, degrading or derogatory remarks, ostracism
• Biting, pinching, hair-and/or ear pulling
• Withholding food/water, or medical care
• Using physical or mechanical restraints
• Isolating a child in a small, confined, and/or dark place
• Imposing physical exercise as a punishment
Major Signs of Abuse and Neglect
The following are the major signs of physical and sexual abuse, emotional damage, and neglect. The presence of one of these signs, or even several in comb:i:nation, may not indicate that abuse has occurred. They may indicate accidents or medical conditions, emotional illness, or that other problems exist. If a number of these signs occur together or it they reoccur frequendy, child
abuse and neglect may be suspected.
Signs of Neglect
Poor hygiene, bad odor
• Inappropriate dress for weather
• Left alone, unsupervised for long periods
• Failure to thrive, malnutrition
• Untreated medical condition
• Constant hunger, begging or stealing food
• Extreme willingness to please
• Frequent absence from school
• Arriving early and/or staying late at school or play areas or other people's homes
Signs of Emotional Damage
• Low self-esteem
• Severe depression
• Severe ainxiety
• Failure to learn
Signs of Physical Abuse
• Bruises; welts on face, neck, chest, back
• Injuries in the shape of object (belt, cord)
• Unexplained burns on palms, soles of fee back
• Fractures that are inconsistent with the account of how an injury occurred
• Untreated medical condition
• Extremes in behavior: very aggressive to withdrawn and shy
• Fear of going home
• Fear of parents and/or other adults
Signs of Sexual Abuse
• Pain, swelling, or itching in genital area
• Bruises, bleeding, discharge in genital area
• Difficulty walking or sitting, frequent urinarion,pain
• Stained or bloody underclothing
• Venereal disease
• Refusal to take part in gym or other exercises.
• Poor peer relationships
• Age-inappropriate interest in sex
• Drastic change in school achievement
• Running away or delinquency
• Regressive behavior